In the spit-and-shine military town of Lawton, Okla., real men ain't supposed to cry. This is the home of Fort Sill, a U.S. Army post, where soldiers learn to kill with gun, mortar and missile, where the big boys belly up to the bar at Gertlestone's pub and down stiff shots of Jaegermeister, where the measure of a man lies partly in his ability to tuck his pain away in a place where nobody--nobody--can see it. No tears allowed in plain sight.
Yet a few miles away, in the dimly lighted sanctuary of the First Assembly of God church on a...